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How to use farming approach to get better harvest in marriage

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By Angela Kintu | Nov 11, 2019

**Maize farm. Maize is the staple food for 96 percent of Kenyans, and over 75 percent of total maize output is produced by smallholder farmers.**

The crops have not gotten the required sunshine to facilitate flowering, pollination and the like. Some plants have failed to fruit while others have rotted in the ground from the excessive moisture.

There are two kinds of famine: the one that comes from no rain and the one that comes from too much rain. When your marriage has too much of one thing, there will be famine.

Sometimes you discover that giving the woman flowers will make her happy, so your default becomes flowers. However, with time she will associate those flowers with you taking her for granted.

Too much rain will flip the famine switch. The lesson here is not to be complacent or fall into easy fixes. Your partner is a complex ecosystem, requiring all kinds of interventions to grow well.

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Weed the garden

One weed by itself is not a problem, but when they get together they can kill a plant. You must deal with them aggressively whenever they show up in your marriage. Do not be lazy about it and do not underestimate them.

The thing with weeding is that it will appear as if you are overreacting, but any farmer knows that you have to use a big hoe on even the tiniest weed – knock that sucker out before it develops firm roots.

For example, if your man is a regular at the gym and his muscles have become something to admire, keep your eyes peeled for the weeds. Some bold women will even walk up to him and touch his muscles and tell him how well he is doing.

Even if it is the gym instructor, weed that nonsense out aggressively! No one gets to touch your man’s semi-nakedness, and he does not get to become comfortable with it. Weed it until he starts to warn them off himself.

And gentlemen, weed this business of people hugging your wife at any and every occasion. That’s how she will smell a cologne that will get under her skin.

Water the garden

Every garden needs you to show it some love and feed it. Some rare plants respond to music, and it is a very rare individual who does not have some music that moves them.

Make playlists for your man/woman for them to listen to in traffic – songs that can only remind them of you. Spend a little time with them and listen to them. More importantly, spend money on them.

It is okay if you are late with the school fees because you bought her some lingerie – that is a win-win situation. It will also become a private joke for you to enjoy once in a while as you remember that time the headmaster was reminding you to pay fees kumbe half the money went to perfume and a g-string. The mischief and laughter will keep your garden lush.

Use pesticides

Sometimes, there are parasites, pests, and destroyers you cannot control by weeding. They have the ability to creep into your spouse’s life in the time frames when you are not together. The people who give wrong advice, take up family time, spend your money and bend your partner’s ear when they become a problem is when you need pesticides.

Sometimes you need to spray one of his drinking buddies, her big sister or the local pastor. Be wise and discerning about it, and whenever your partner opens their mouth to make decisions based on what Ben or Latifah says and does at theirs, deploy the pesticide.

You might need a scarecrow at a strategic time in the farming cycle for certain crops. For example, if you are pregnant and you think it may be causing some stress in the adult department, deploy your scarecrows to keep the man on the straight and narrow.

If for any reason you need to be apart for a long-distance assignment, make sure your partner knows that the scarecrow button will come into play and you are free to drop in unannounced at any time.

When all is said and done, the only thing left to do is harvest. If I need to explain this one, then the class has been asleep. Please, wake your neighbour up!